In our pastoral groups we talk about kindness and how kindness helps us
build positive relationships or connections with others.
Kindness is about caring for others through helpful and generous acts. It can involve
doing favours and good deeds, providing emotional support, or offering our time and
skills to others. Being kind helps us build meaningful connections with others.
Humans are born to be kind. In order for humans to have survived as a species, we
needed kindness! We needed to learn to cooperate and deal with conflict peacefully in
order to build a healthy, well-functioning society. Stephen Post, a researcher and best-
selling author, says, “We eat because it keeps us alive, and we help others because it
keeps us human.” Kindness is at the core of our connection to others.Not only does kindness help us connect with others, research shows that it has
positive effects on our wellbeing too. When we help and give to others, we feel
happier, more energetic, stronger and calmer, as well as less anxious, depressed and
stressed. We are wired to feel good when doing things for others – when we carry out
acts of kindness, the pleasure centres of our brain light up. Kindness is its own
reward!We can foster our children’s kindness through modelling kindness ourselves, giving
them responsibilities and opportunities to be caring and helpful, and exposing them
to kind, inspiring people. This communicates the importance that society places on
kindness and helps children recognise how connected we all are.
In our Pastoral groups, we explored what kindness looks like at home and school.
We thought about how our school dispositions would help us to be kind. Some
examples we came up with include:
Our challenge at school over the next few weeks is to spread kindness through our
school community. We encourage you to ask your child/ren how they may be able to
contribute to spreading kindness at school and at home!
Try this at home: With your children, create a list of five ways you can each show
kindness to others as a way to spread joy and build your positive connections. You
could even make a plan to carry out all five random acts of kindness today!